When Change is in the Air

Steps you can take when faced with divorce

Divorce happens — about half the time, according to [most recent] studies.

Maybe the divorce is your idea, or maybe it was the last thing you saw coming. Either way, there are a few steps you can take so that it doesn’t feel like the end of the world. Knowing/doing these 8 key things up front can help you and your family feel safe and in control. So you and your loved ones can get on the road to recovery.

1. Get help for yourself.

If you’re seeking a divorce, be fair and honest and accept the consequences of your actions. If you’re unexpectedly faced with divorce, take care of you. Find a therapist who’s a good fit for you, and who can help you navigate the many emotions you’ll feel.

2. Don’t share with your children.

The impact of divorce is often devastating on children. The best thing to tell children is that they are loved by both parents and that the adults will take care of everything. They need to focus on just being a child. Children of divorce may likely benefit from therapy as well.

3. Contact an attorney.

The divorce process and Colorado law is complex and confusing. Educate yourself. Many attorneys offer a free consultation. Take advantage of this and find an attorney who’s a good fit for you.

4. Get a plan.

Establish what is joint and separate property. Understand the accounts, retirement plans and investment accounts you have. Collect records for all accounts, and obtain an inventory of all financial documents

5. Inventory family possessions.

Take photos.

6. Establish your household budget 
and expenses.

Review your bank accounts for the past year and determine what your budget needs are for recurring expenses.  Make sure to include family debt payments. Pull your credit history to be informed of any debts in your name.

7. Secure funds for legal counsel.

All attorneys require a retainer. There are a few attorneys, such as myself, who work on a retainer and payment plan on a case-by-case basis so that legal representation is possible for everyone.

8. Think about your future goals.

This may be a good time for a new career or going back to school. Look at program options and collect the data for later use in your legal case.